One of my earliest experiences as a new pro was 
dealing with a bitter writer who'd been writing 
a lot longer than I had, who'd had a few things published, 
but who had consistently failed to engage readers.
 
My first encounter with him was when he popped 
into my fan-created topic on GEnie (this was in the 
private bulletin-board days of the internet, before 
the world-wide web gained any traction)---where he
took me to task for the use of the word "midden" 
in my first novel.
 
He had not read the book, and said as much, but OTHER 
people had read it, and told him about this particular 
error, and he wanted to gloat about my ineptitude, 
letting me know that a midden was a primitive garbage 
dump, not some sort of lunch.
 
I calmly explained that while I was aware that the 
English word midden meant a primitive garbage dump,
"midden" as used in FIRE IN THE MIST had been italicized, 
indicating it was a foreign word, and that it derived 
from one of that world's dead languages, and from the words
"medias daen" and that those words in the history
of my world had blended together and had come to
mean the midday meal.
 
I noted further that the meaning of the word was 
easily obtained from context within the story.
 
He ended up looking like a jackass in front of everyone, 
and exposed his own stupidity for criticizing a book 
he hadn't read, and using hearsay to do it.  
 
The linguistic drubbing he received also tickled
one of my editors, who couldn't stand the pompous prick.
 
But he wasn't done with me yet.
 
In the private SFWA topics on the same GEnie system, 
he angrily referred to me as "wildly prolific, but not 
yet good," and bemoaned the state of publishing when such 
an inept writer as I was could have one book in print, a 
second finished and heading into print, and a three-book 
deal within the span of two (gasp!) years.
 
And again, I asked him if, since he was claiming my work
was bad, he had actually read my first book---then the 
only thing I had in print.
 
Again, he stated that he had not, but noted that he 
didn't need to read the book to know it was bad because:
 
1) Baen was publishing me,
2) I wrote too fast,
3) I'd quit my day job to write full time, and
3) My first novel was popular.
 
There were several appalling inferences here, but the 
one that was destroying HIM was this: If I was popular 
and experiencing success, I could not possibly be good.
 
I talk a lot about the subconscious mind, and how you 
have to train it to understand what you value and what 
you need so that it and you won't be working at 
cross-purposes.
 
So take a second here, and see how this idiot was 
training his subconscious mind:
 
1) Books written efficiently are bad.
2) Books people like to read are bad.
3) Writers who can afford to write full-time 
   are bad writers.
4) Books published by publishers I don't like 
   (for whatever reason) are bad.
 
THEREFORE, if I write efficiently, I will produce 
bad work.
 
THEREFORE, if people like my books, I will be a 
bad writer.
 
THEREFORE, if I sell my work to a publisher who 
has a track record of building writers and developing 
them into career novelists, my work will automatically 
be bad.
 
THEREFORE, if I can make a living at what I want 
to do, it will mean I'm a hack.
 
How has his career gone?
 
Not well.  
 
I did find him on Amazon (with a manual search of 
the Amazon site) but locating his work is like 
pulling teeth.  It doesn't look like he has anything 
in print.
 
I can't pretend this breaks my heart.  He went out of 
his way to make me the target of his malice for several 
years.  Seeing that he still has no writing career to 
speak of is fine by me.
 
But YOU can learn from his screw-ups and not 
repeat his mistakes.
 
You, too, have a subconscious mind that listens 
to what you say, BELIEVES it, and files it away for 
later use.
 
EVERY time you badmouth some writer for being 
successful---BECAUSE he or she is successful---you 
are telling your subconscious mind "I despise success."
 
EVERY time you snarl about what idiots readers are 
for liking something popular, you instruct your 
subconscious mind to avoid writing anything that 
might be popular.
 
EVERY time you complain out loud or in writing 
or in your thoughts about how much money another 
writer makes, you are telling your subconscious mind 
that making money for your writing---BEING PAID
FOR YOUR WORK---is a bad thing.
 
And your subconscious mind listens, and works to 
save you from all that awful popularity, success, 
and money.
 
This isn't just true for writing, by the way.  
It's true for anything.  
 
What you say you despise, your subconscious mind 
will block you from.  
 
What you say you love, your subconscious mind 
will seek out.
 
If you'd actually like to be successful as a writer, 
or as a human being,  look at those people who are 
doing well doing what you'd like to do, and make them 
your role models.
 
Cheer their successes.
 
Embrace their triumphs as if they were your own.
 
Teach your Muse---your subconscious mind---to love 
what you want, not to hate what you envy.
 
And always, write with joy...